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The $325,000 Wedding That Got Canceled!

Posted on February 15 by Molly Tully

Have you seen the article in the New York Post about a New York/New Jersey couple who canceled their $325,000 wedding after a brawl at their rehearsal dinner?? Well, this one gets good…and offers a number of DON’Ts for your own wedding. See if you can follow along…

Here’s how the story goes: According to the Post and lawsuits filed by both parties, Amy Bzura, 27, from Marlboro, New Jersey, and Bradley Moss, 32, from Woodbury, Long Island, were set to be married at The Pierre Hotel in Manhattan. But at their rehearsal dinner the night before on October 28, 2016, at Blue Water Grill in Union Square, things went awry for this couple, who had been dating since 2012.

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Facebook/Brad Moss

No toast for you: A brawl broke out when the father of groom, Robert Moss—owner of Long Island Pipe Supply—refused to let the bride’s brother Adam make a toast. According to the Manhattan federal court suit filed by father of the bride Bruce Bzura, Adam was about to make a “heartfelt toast” and video tribute. Robert Moss, 65, “inexplicably and angrily declared that Adam was not allowed to speak at the dinner,” and then growled, “Do you know what I can do to you?,” the suit claims. He threatened to kick Adam out, and “events began to escalate,” it says.

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Facebook/Brad Moss

Punches thrown: Wendy Moss, 60, began arguing with Adam, and the groom’s brother, Michael, punched Adam in the mouth, according to the suit. The groom’s dad then tried to charge Adam, while Bruce Bzura, 66, struggled to hold him back, the suit says.

Wedding called off: The evening ended in “shouting and tears”—and the groom’s mother began phoning guests to tell them the big event was off, according to the lawsuit.

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Facebook/Brad Moss

You’re dead to me: To make sure the relationship was over, Robert Moss threatened to kick his son out of the business and cut him out of his will if he went ahead and married Amy, the suit claims.

Ultimatums made: The article mentioned that Amy told Bradley to choose either her or his mother. Yet, Adam claims that ultimatum was never made.

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Facebook/Brad Moss

It gets worse: The Mosses changed the locks on the East 54th Street apartment Amy and Bradley shared, preventing her from getting her belongings, the suit claims. The Bzuras filed for a court order to allow Amy back in. The night before a hearing on the order, the Mosses allowed her in, with the stipulation that “an off-duty police officer . . . accompany her to pack all of her belongings,” according to the suit.

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Facebook/Brad Moss

Who gets to keep the ring: Bradley is also suing Amy for the return of the $125,800 engagement ring.

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The Bzura family. Facebook/Amy Bzura

Who has to pay for the canceled wedding: The bill for the canceled $1,100-a-head wedding reception is in dispute, like everything else. According to the Post, Bruce Bzura, head of Old Bridge Chemicals in New Jersey, which posts annual sales of $17 million, claims he was paying most of the tab but that Robert Moss agreed to cover the $89,919 cost of his side’s 79 wedding guests. Bzura’s suit seeks payment. “He promised to pay his share, and now he won’t pay a penny,” Bzura said. A lawyer for Robert and Wendy Moss called the suit’s claims “bogus.”

What NOT to do at a rehearsal dinner—some lessons learned:

  1. Whose ring is it? Especially when it’s worth $125,800? While laws vary from state to state, it’s customary for the bride to return the ring back to the groom if the wedding has been called off. Judges look at engagement rings as a conditional gift—a type of unwritten contract. And once that contract has been broken and conditions are not met, the ring has to be returned. But you can always take your chances with a judge in court. Your legal fees may be high, but surely not as high as $125,800—and possibly worth the gamble. But if you had received the ring as your birthday gift (an UNconditional gift), that’s ALL yours. Just sayin’….
  2. Paying $1,100 a head is a HUGE RED FLAG that there’s more going on here than simply two people who are in love and want to be married. When you start focusing so much on the details of the wedding and running up the tab that high, it’s fairly safe to say that there may be major issues. Typically the less money spent on a wedding, the lower the divorce rate (yes, this is true!) Another just sayin’…
  3. Let the bride’s brother speak. 
  4. Don’t punch anyone at the rehearsal dinner.
  5. Don’t threaten to disinherit anyone ever at any wedding event.
  6. Old Bridge Chemicals and Long Island Pipes don’t mix.
  7. If you have to file multiple court orders, it’s a good thing you didn’t get married.
  8. Just imagine what the cost of this divorce would have been.

 


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  • Damien LeGallienne

    Who cares what these New Yawk values type of people do.

  • Damien LeGallienne

    All this garish talk of $$$$$ and value of jewelry and price of wedding — sounds like a bunch of pushy and nervy and yukky people. The fact that they are from Marlboro NJ pretty much sums up what you’re dealing with here.

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